Friends are Friends in Need

What types of friends are you? What types of friends should we be? Casual friend, Good Friend, Best Friend? Do you  have any REAL friends at all? The one where you can bear your souls and heart out, able to see your weaknesses and strength, the one who you allow to see the skeleton in your closets, the one who is there for you during good and bad times?

Is your husband your real friend? Husband can be our soul mate but can he be our friend? Sometimes, they don't even know that we are mad at them but our close friends know ! (I mean our friends know that we are mad at our husband hehe).

I tend to tag to one person at a particular period of my life. I have one best friend in primary, secondary, college and university. They are now scattered all over the places. I found most of them a few years back-  thanks to (FB).



There is one that is very dear to my heart that I manage to meet (via FB as well) . We made appointment to see each other and that was the 1st time I saw her after 18 years of separation. She is still as beautiful as a 16 years-old-girl she used to be. Seeing her evokes all yester-years memories and I was 16 again :D

Like her, I bet that all my friends who were/are my best friends at one time are still around. They are not living that far. I mean that we are not separated by a continent or an ocean. Maybe we just lose touch or may be at some point of our life , we are too busy focusing on ourselves . Maybe we met others and forget all the previous friends that have shaped us into what we are today. Maybe?

I always believe that friendship is two ways communication and effort. One way ticket does not bring you anywhere.  Friends have to take turn to give and to take. If you are the one who keeps giving (time, advice, company or even a nice comment to brighten yr friend's day ) without getting any back , the friendship will soon fade. It is not worth for you to keep the friendship going. Macam juga bercinta, best ke bertepuk sebelah tangan?:)



Sometimes friends hurt us. Deep.Certain things that we could not accept. Things that hurts our feelings or our ego :) . No matter how great good friends are, they can hurt you - with words or actions or when they tell the truth :).

And we will need time to heal. Some things are forgiven and some other things are not. Yet good friends are like our siblings. They can not be disowned. Or maybe they are like bitter-sweet chocolate, hard to resist :). If they remain loyal, and trustworthy, they are certainly worth to keep.


Ermayum 20/7/09