Notion of Love

Beautiful – peaceful –pure –deep feeling – you have it and the whole world becomes beautiful, all burden lifted, heart relieved, mind at peace, pain disappears and disease cured. It makes you whole and complete. It gives you meaning to life. It gives you soul to live.


Love universally has no boudaries - limitless in nature - that we can love our father the same amount of love that we love our mother or we could love our child no more and no less for each one of them- Equally amount of love because we cannot trade one for another- We cannot bear to lose one – One cannot make up for another- If any one of them vanishes from our life- We become incomplete – We become limp


So can a man love more than one women? equally? And vice versa, . Can kekasih have more than one kekasih?and again, to love as equally as we love our children. Is it possible? If the first rule above applies, yes it is possible.


But love does not exist alone- heart has its own principle and judgement. So in real word it is hard to apply.


Love can turn bad when it does not get what it wants. It can kill, It can hurt. It can leave scars so deep that you find it hard to recover. Hurt that is so excruciatingly painful that you find it hard to cure. At times, it is suffocating that you cannot breath. Think of the unrequited love. Think of  a triangle love (a Bella –Edward- Jacob ‘s love :)- so frustrated it can be when the person whom you love is loving somebody else).


But then again love is not tangible- It has no mass. It is on your mind – the thought of love- the thought of being in love- when you think that you are in love then love exists. But once you decide that you are over it- it disappears.

Child can disown parents. Mother can abondon baby. The only sign it ever exists is the pain or hurt that you carry or you bury- the love is no more there. It does not exist anymore. And with some effort you can teach yourself not to think of it- you try to forget it and you know what- it can be done. The notion of love in your mind will dissapear. The pain will fade. Your mind will have that blury kind of image only and when it crosses your mind once a while- you feel nothing. Love has gone.

So be reminded- love while you can – seize and conquer it. When it is no more around- move on –and let go-you'll free your mind of the notion of LOVE – so you wont feel the pain- you wont- because love exist only in your mind- your heart feels it because your mind has it. It is only a notion.


An old lady once said- when it comes to love between a man and a women- stay as long as there is a love around- as long as love exists- even if it is only a fraction- hold on to it- leave only when you feel and sure that there is no more love left- when you look to your once beloved face- you feel nothing – not love not hate – when you do not care what you feel because it is not significant anymore (if you are still mad, hate and care please know that there is love around - SO walk out only when you are totally sure that there is no more love – for that you will not regret later-


But for this moment, let’s fill our mind with a lot of love - fill it all to the max and let it come out and color and shower our life while we still can have this life- Come love come all – let live in love

PS
A bit philosophical huh? :) hehe
Feel free to add sugar or salt :)- I only merepek/ramble and maybe not even right :) 

Forever Love

Do you believe in FOREVER LOVE? -love between an ordinary man and a women? Does it exist?

Don't get me wrong. I believe in love. I am a hopeless romantic so I have to believe in love. I know that love exists now and then. It is a lonely cruel world without love in the air.

I come across people, young people, newly wed, teenagers - in person and in blogs :). They are so much in love- they declare their love openly, publicly - declaration of love is every where - on their faces and gestures or words; written and spoken -as they describe/tell about their love object- I love seeing all that - fascinated by the wonder of LOVE- but then does FOREVER LOVE exist?


Will you be HERE for me FOREVER? will you love me when I am no more young, no more beautiful,  no more healthy, no more capable to serve you (wifely duty). Till death do us apart?

Will we be separated by only Death? Can we withstand all other things in our lives apart from Death? Can we withstand crisis, money constraints, work pressure, emotional turmoil? Will you forgive me and give me 2nd chance if I did the unthinkable? If I did the unforgiven? Will you love me ENOUGH to forgive me?


Will you bath me , clean me thoroughly, put on my cloth, comb my hair and read to me if I were somehow become so sick and helpless? If you do, will you continue to do that till the day I die or you just give up half way?.
Similarly, will I take care of my husband if the situation is reversed? Am I strong enough to continue to handle all on my own? If I were beautiful enough, won't I be tempted to find other man? Will you?


I saw some people going through that phase of their lives, and my heart goes to them. A man takes care of his wife , feeds her, baths her, be there morning and night, wipes his wife face with clean towel every morning, changes her diapers morning and night, talks and whispers to her, and squeezes her hands to tell her all will be OK. He has been there for 2 months while his wife is lying helplessly unconscious on the hospital bed.

I also know about another guy whose wife has brain tumor and has been in coma for 12 months and he is still around taking care of his wife .

Or about another couple who both are so old - the man takes care of his wife who has  stroke and never leaves her side . He cleans and feeds her during the day and hugs her during the night.

Don't you think these couple are so sweet? And the sick persons are SO lucky?. These are true love. To me, these are forever love.


Will you be this lucky? Will I be lucky? -

We will not know till the time comes . We cannot be sure if forever love is ours or not.

love me now, love me never. but if you love me love me forever.