Friend is Friend in Need Part II

Friend is friend in need. 

Friendship is always 2 ways- One way is a tiring endless effort. It takes two to tango, you cannot be the one who keeps remembering birthdays, sending card/email, calling calling, sending sms , asking  for a lunch date, or girls day/night out.- You cannot be the one who keeps listening to the other’s happiness, and the other's grievances  (yes you can if you are the unselfish saint).

Once a while you want  the other person to laugh at your joke, to be happy for your good news (instead of being jealous or indifferent), to listen to your  rambles during bad hair day, to hear out your grudges  without being judgmental. A friend who gives advice when asked. And if not asked, to be diplomatic in conveying the so called unsolicited advice

Yes, friends come and go- At times we do move on our life and we find our separate ways. But we leave the past and move on to the future  with the realization that we know each other so well. It is only a matter of time until we meet again- until we are united by our children or grandchildren or distant relatives or new friends. And we have the trust that is so strong that we don’t need to be reminded- because we have gone through the life’s together and even if I meet you 10 or 20 years from now I still know what type of friends you have been/are and  I know that how comfortable I can be with you or how easy to trust you and maintain the same level of friendliness even after years of being apart.

To think good of others, to be humble, to be understanding, to be considerate, to be excited at one's happy moment, and to share a sad face (even if you don’t feel sad) during bad days. To show off a new catch (handbag/makeup/diamond :)) without worrying that we are actually showing off because what we do is only sharing our happiness. To wave our hand from a far away and to smile at a near distance- All this are some of the basic friend’s prerequisites. Don't let me start elaborating on other good friend's criteria- trustworthy, supportive, respect, and the list goes on.

Without this, be prepared to live alone. If you cannot conform to these basic standard of what friends are- walking pass me without even meeting my eyes or  totally ignore me as and when you like then you are not a friend. Mind your own business and ignore everybody. And everybody will ignore you. You don’t care and it does not disturb you the slightest at all. You are so confident that you have all what you need to live happily. No dear – you are so wrong-

One day will come when you want a FRIEND to talk to or to just to be there for you. Nobody can live alone. Yes we have other (distance or closer friend like our hubby or our siblings or our children). But there is time when we would want just another friend outside of that circle.


PS:
Ina, you have given me the idea to write this :).  She is a different type of friend. But she is our friend.